Exit and Expand

One of the biggest times in my life where I lived with the energy of “it’s me against the world” was when I became a single mother. Around the same time Tupac released that song, I was doing everything possible to make sure my son had the best life. I worked, went to school full-time, and made it my mission that he would never feel like he didn’t have enough. He had clean clothes, shoes, a safe home with lights, gas, furniture—all the things a child needs to feel loved and cared for.

The Journey of a Single Mother

That “me against the world” mindset came from needing to be brave enough to leave his father. From that point on, I carried into almost every relationship the belief that I couldn’t fully trust anyone. I always made sure I could provide for myself and my son. If someone wanted to help, I let them—but I never needed them. I carried the energy of: “I don’t need you. You can leave. I can do better by myself.”

What I didn’t realize then was how much I was hurting myself. I never gave relationships a real chance because I was still unhealed from betrayal and broken promises. I was protecting myself, but I was also limiting myself.

The Impact of a Closed Heart

Over time, this protection turned into a closed heart. I stopped trusting people altogether—not just men, but even friendships. Isolation felt safer than being let down again. My son was my main priority. There were times when he ate and I didn’t, or I ate his leftovers, but I found joy in knowing he would never go to bed hungry. I carried that role of provider with pride, but it also kept me cut off from receiving.

Later in life, even when I married and had another child, my heart never opened fully. It was open, but guarded. I still held back out of lack of trust, lack of appreciation, and lack of respect. I wanted my children to have everything, but I didn’t allow myself to be fully loved or supported. At the same time, my spirituality was awakening. I was becoming more sensitive, more intuitive, and more aware of divine love. Still, I didn’t trust myself completely. I knew better in many situations, but didn’t always do better, and I blamed myself for not being enough.

The Dark Night of the Soul

I spent decades feeling that way—sometimes closed, sometimes guarded—but never fully free. Eventually, I hit what many call the dark night of the soul. It was a spiritual awakening, a wake-up call from God, Source, Divine Love. I received a calling, one that never left me. It knocked on my heart again and again. I would answer it a little, then stop, discouraged. Then I would pick it up again, and stop once more. This cycle continued until I finally dove deep into self-discovery.

Embracing Self-Discovery

I studied. I cried. I screamed. I learned. I got certified in Reiki, energy healing, cognitive behavioral therapy, and more. I poured into everyone—coworkers, clients, children, even strangers. But still, I wasn’t pouring into myself. My heart was open, but not expansive.

Then, something shifted. One day, I finally began to pour into myself. I realized who I am required more than survival. I required expansion. I needed to expand my beliefs, my heart, and my sense of worthiness. That was the beginning of my freedom.

The Power of an Open and Expansive Heart

Now, I stand in the energy of an Open and Expansive Heart. I’m unrecognizable from the woman I once was. I remind myself daily that expansion is unlimited—it has no boundaries. It’s not just about expanding outward into the world, but also expanding inward, upward, and in every direction. A full 360° expansion.

Because my heart deserves to live in its full expression in this lifetime. And so does yours.

Understanding the Seasons of the Heart

Every heart moves through seasons—some tender, some guarded, some wide open. Each season carries its own wisdom, its own lessons, and its own invitations for growth.

This quiz will help you discover which scared season your heart is holding right now. Is it the season of protecting yourself at all costs? The season of longing for more but feeling hesitant to trust? Or the season of opening wide into joy, love, and expansion?

Your results will reveal where your heart is resting—and offer guidance to help you move closer to the freedom, love, and expansion your soul is craving.

I invite you to take the seven-question quiz and uncover the sacred season of your heart.